This is not going to be a popular post but sometimes we have to say the unsaid things.
- School shootings have been happening since the 1700’s
- From the 1700’s-1960’s there was an average of 13 school shootings each decade.
- On June 25, 1962, the United States Supreme Court decided in Engel v. Vitale that a prayer approved by the New York Board of Regents for use in schools violated the First Amendment because it represented establishment of religion…
- In 1962 God was officially removed from our schools.
- in 1970 the average of school shootings climbed from 16 to 33
- Homicides involving firearms have been the leading cause of death for African American males ages 15 to 19 since 1969…
- In the 1960’s 34% of Americans owned a Gun..
- In 1975 47% of households owned a gun. In 2014 31% of households own a gun. In 2017 38% of household own a gun…
- Mass Shootings that took place by decades…
What are all of these statistics you ask? They are proof that owning a gun has NOTHING to do with the violence and brokenness we are experiencing in our time. Instead the removal of God and prayer from our everyday lives, the lack of discipline schools can enforce, and the lack of discipline parents enforce has everything to do with the climb in gun violence and the amount of lives we are losing daily.
We removed God from schools and our schools began to see an increase of violence.
- We ask where God is when things like what happened in Florida happen…well, we told him we don’t want you here. You are not welcome. You represent a lack of freedom. And in that we have no room to blame God for not having his hand in our education when we have removed him. I will not argue with you on this incident BUT I will loudly state, without God we will continue to see violence, a lack of hope, confusion, and brokenness.
We have taken away the ability for teachers to discipline.
- True Story: In my undergraduate internship I sat in a parent meeting with my cooperating teacher. This child had thrown a stapler at the teacher and was suspended for two days. In the meeting the parents said to the teacher and I quote “This is not like our child, did you say something to them to make them mad…” My mouth hit the floor. Did you know we (teachers) can be sued for disciplining a child.
- Nearly 8 in 10 teachers (78%) said students are quick to remind them that they have rights or that their parents can sue. STUDENTS WILL LITERALLY SAY TO TEACHERS MY PARENTS CAN SUE YOU.
- Nearly half of teachers surveyed (49%) reported they have been accused of unfairly disciplining a student.
- Virtually all teachers (97%) said good discipline and behavior are prerequisite for a successful school. And virtually all (93%) said it is the public schools’ job to teach kids to follow the rules so they are ready to join society. Yet nearly 8 in 10 teachers said their school has students who should be removed and sent to alternative schools. In what the report terms a perhaps the harshest testimonial to the problem, 52% of the teachers surveyed reported their school has an armed police officer on school grounds.More than 1 in 3 teachers said colleagues in their school had left because student discipline was such a challenge, and the same number personally considered leaving. Many complained about being more in the crowd control business than in teaching. The gum chewing the yawning aloud or putting their feet up on the desklike they didn’t know that was inappropriate, said one New Jersey teacher.More than half of teachers said that behavior problems often stem from teachers who are soft on discipline because they can’t count on parents or their schools to support them. And 85% believe new teachers are particularly unprepared to deal with behavior problems.
- So lets talk about school discipline in the 60’s. School discipline was very different in the early 1960s. The most common form of discipline was corporal punishment (paddling), which is outlawed in 31 states today. In the 1960s, students could receive a number of swats from a principal or teacher, depending on the severity of the infraction. Staying inside during recess, staying after school, writing lines on paper or the blackboard, or standing in a corner were also common punishments. Corporal punishment was a mainstay, and other types of punishment such as in-school suspension, alternative schools, and sending students to the “Dean of Discipline” were all common punishments.Whats interesting about this era specifically is the Dean of Discipline. The dean’s single job was to deal with punishment.(http://evolutionofdiscipline.weebly.com/50s60s.html) The idea was that it would allow teachers and principals to focus more on their educational duties (and all the teachers said AMEN).
Parents want to be their child’s friends instead of their parent.
- This is not a popular statement these days but it drives me up A WALL!!
- In the 60’s chores did not come with a list of instructions or parents telling children to do it more than one time. Chores did not come with allowance or rewards. After talking with my grandparents and reading multiple journal accounts from people growing up in the 30’s-60’s I discovered various forms of discipline. You would go to bed without eating. You would get spanked with a switch, leather, and other various forms. Children had to stand up on any occasion when an adult would enter the room, even if that adult was the child’s parent. On the bus, it was expected that boys would give up their seat for a woman or anyone senior in age and also give up their places in line for the bus. You could never leave the table at dinner time without asking permission first. Children had to say “please” and “thank you,” and if they didn’t use these words correctly, they would be informed by adults that they were being rude. When wearing a hat, it would be suitable etiquette to take it off when going indoors, into a shop or when talking to a lady on the street. A child would be taught to say, “I would like,” and was taught never to say the words, “I want.” Opening the door for someone, especially a woman or an adult, was necessary, as was letting her exit before the child did so. Children went to bed when it got dark and read books. They used their imagination and helped raise younger siblings.
- Permissive parenting became a trend in (you guessed it) the 1960’s. If you google “How to Discipline Your Child”, these are the first three results; How to Love your Child through Disobedience, When it Comes to Discipline there is No Need to Raise Your Voice, and How to Discipline Your Child without Raising Your Voice. Seeing this makes my eyes roll. This article from CNN says it all,
The father of the 9 year old boy who snuck onto a plane from Minneapolis to Las Vegas last month broke down in tears during a press conference, distressed over his child’s behavior problems and his own efforts to correct them.That frustrated dad’s tears drew national attention to a serious issue: overwhelmed parents at a loss over how to discipline their children who repeatedly act out. “I’m a parent. I’m not perfect,” said the father, who wore a hooded sweatshirt and a ball cap to shield his identity.Sometime before his son’s airline escapade, the father said, the boy had stolen a delivery van and was brought home by a police officer. The father asked the officer to come into his house to watch him discipline his son.“I said, ‘Please, sir, can you go up with me and watch me whip his butt?’ The officer said, ‘If I see you hit your son, we’re going to have to lock you up.’ ““What can I do?” the visibly shaken father asked. “If I whip my son, I get locked up. If I let him keep doing what he is doing, I get into trouble. Someone please, please help me.”This dad is certainly not alone in feeling at a loss about what to do.
- Now I am not going to sit here and write there is a right or wrong way to discipline your children that is not my place BUT I am going to say LOOK AT THE STATISTICS.
There are other elements that add to violence such as abusive home-life, climb in violent video games, the decline of father figures in homes, the climb of social media influences, the climb of mental health issues, etc. But I can also look at these and state my above opinions (and facts) could clear up a lot of these issues too. Parents you have control over what your kids see, watch, do, and say. You have a say so in their friends, in their social media, in what they eat, and how they dress.
I will also make this very small statement on gun violence, since I have kind of given away my stance. Are drugs illegal? Yes. Yet 20.8 million people aged 12 or older had a substance use disorder in the past year. 16.2 million of those were using illegal drugs. I mean and lets be honest how often do we want to push the big red button that says “DO NOT PUSH.”
In all honesty I don’t know how to close this post except my heart is broken for the Florida and what these students had to witness. My heart is broken over our nation. My heart is broken politics divide us. I am scared as a parent but also believe God created Ezra for such a time as this.
I am hopeful because my God created the heavens and the earth. He breathes life into my lungs. I have witness His restoration and love. And this earth is not my home.